There are people who analyse every decision they make in life. Then there are people who overanalyse. And then – there are people like me who overanalyze their overanalyzing tendencies to finally end up in a big mess of analyzing and overanalyzing from which the only way out is a thorough analyzing.
As a highly sensitive person I tend to ponder things a lot, all of the time. However, for a Hsp simply thinking about stuff isn’t enough. At least I need to analyse and overanalyse every little thing in the future, in the past and everything big and small in the now, whether it pays off to analyse them or not. My husband has developed a word for all this dwelling: he sees it as gutting things (like gutting a fish you know) 😀 To be honest, that’s actually a fairly accurate verb. I gut things ‘til I’m absolutely sure I have approached them from every angle and figured out all the possible scenarios there could be. This way I can eliminate the element of surprise from the equation. Goes without saying, we Hsps tend not to like surprises very much. 😀
To my understanding being highly sensitive is as common or rare among humans as among animals. Highly sensitive individuals are an important part of a pack of quarry. For example, highly sensitive zebras probably are very aware of the pack’s surroundings and notice the minor details (as well as analyze it) which in turn can save the pack from a lions attack. Zebras aside, I have realized to do the exact same thing. Since I analyse, overanalyze and gut thins, I am very aware of the pitfalls that may follow my solutions. Thus, I can avoid them or prepare for them in advance. My analyzing abilities also have teached me to better learn from my mistakes, to quarrel better and to be a better spouse.
Sometimes overanalysing is weighing me down so much that I start to analyse my tendency to overanalyse. As you might notice, this isn’t exactly a effective solution to the problem. However, I feel that there is also good to be found in every analysis and overanalysis.
As said, at times analyzing this much is exhausting. Sometimes I wonder whether my life would be easier if I learned not to analyse so much. Funny thing is, I just realized that even that is probably considered analysing. Now and then I envy my husband. If a plan fails, my husband is capable to let it go and move on, seal the failures in a box and bury it deep within his brain. As for me, I analyse my failure day after day trying to figure out once and for all what went wrong, why did it go wrong, how can I make sure it won’t go wrong again, why is it bothering me so much, should it bother me so much, why do I analyse it so much, why am I unable to bury it, is it good or bad not to bury it, how long can I keep analyzing it and so on. Finally, I end up in a situation where the original problem has faded a long time ago and I just keep analysing my own sentiments about how effctively I’m analysing and how do I feel about the analysis.
I’m lucky to have a very busy life. All this analysing eventually comes to an end simply because I usually don’t have much time for it. Whether this Is a good or a bag thing, I’m not sure. However, when I have time to exhaust myself with analyzing every little detail I feel tired yes, but also happy. Happy because I feel like I’m finally on the top of things.
What means do you use to control the analysing tendencies? Or should we control them at all? …I’ll be here analysing this. 🙂
I love you hsp. ❤